Outline for Draft:
- P – Being that one person in the friend group who doesn’t show his true colors because they are only meant to be seen in one specific way because of their friends gets tiring. Now imagine being a guy in America. Men are always told to not show emotion or to be the tough guy. Sometimes even told to act like a person we aren’t.
- Women have fought for and secured a wider range of choices about the way they lead their lives. Men, meanwhile, remain stuck in cages of their own creation. This makes the necessary transformation more complex, and in some ways more painful. (Richard Reeves )
- The thought of being something you’re not isn’t something guys would like. But through time expectations have been set for us and we have found ways to work around it.
- N – In the car community, you’re encouraged to show who your true colors are. Being yourself is something you can apply to cars. Add your own taste to stand out from the crowd.
- The way their car is mod, speaks a lot about a person. For example, if the colour you choose is bright and colourful or just plain and simple, that already speaks a lot about someone. The car, in a way, symbolizes the driver; and that alone, is unique. (lee shermaine)
- Your car is another symbol of who you are. The way you build something speaks highly of you and gives people an idea of who you are.
- H – Paraphrase(a point in history that relates to the main idea of your essay) People always used something to represent who they are no matter if it is a tattoo, a weapon, or anything with meaning to oneself.
- What is the point? Men using materialistic things to connect with their identity isn’t something that came recently. It’s been around for a while.
- Evidence: Valued material possessions. . . act as signs of the self that are essential in their own right for its continued cultivation, and hence the world of meaning that we create for ourselves, and that creates our selves, ex- tends literally into the objective surroundings. ( Russell W. Belk 1984)
- Connect: When a materialistic object has a personal connection to a person, it builds one’s identity through it.
- L – (what is the point of this paragraph ) The youth now show how they feel or represent their identity through materialistic objects.
- Young people’s symbolic creativity is now explored through leisure and processes of symbolic production. (Andrew Bengry-Howell)
- (Connect it) Young adults now tend to use creative expression to present who they are.
- P – the feeling of using a car is a way of expressing your creative side. Sometimes you’ll use different mods from others just to stand out from the norm.
- Robert: It makes the car your own. It’s individual. You’re taking a factory product and doing what you want to do. It’s about style and expression, individuality. Interviewer: But at the end of the day is it not still a Fiat? Robert: But it’s trying to make it your own Fiat and trying to inject something into the brand. (Interview with Robert, October 2007)
- Building something and making it personal gives it an identity. More specifically showing others your identity.
- L – Another way men usually tend to show who they are is by adding tattoos to their bodies that are really personal to them. Even to stand out and to feel different from others.
- “ This study elucidates the complex and varied motivations of those who acquire multiple tattoos. Common personality traits were identified, including a high need for uniqueness and low need for conformity. (Stephanie Anne Kalanj-Mizzi )
- Getting a tattoo can be for the simple reasoning of being one of a kind (being yourself)
- L – Men and women are held to a certain expectation and sometimes can’t act like their true selves. That isn’t the same everywhere, some places encourage differently and encourage self-identity.
- “The strong emphasis upon dancing does not discriminate against the physically defective. Instead every defect is capitalised in the form of the dance or compensated for by the perfection of the dance.” (Mead 84) “coming of age in Samoa”
- Samoan culture expects everyone to contribute to the community. No matter if it’s helping with kids or plantations. Everyone contributes. They encourage kids to be themselves including their dances. They tell them to dance and have fun being themselves. No matter who you are it is important to embrace yourself to others.
- P – Women have had their standards changed.they have been able to reach new heights. Recently they can now become a female vice president since Kamala Harris is now elected vice president. But for guys, things haven’t changed as for standards or expectations.
- “Most boys and men are aching not for things to stay the same, but for a new script,” says Barker. “A script that includes being emotionally connected; being equal caregivers; supporting full equality in the workplace; supporting full equality for individuals of all sexual orientations and gender identities and being able to ask for help when they need it.” (Shelley Zalis)
- Guys are finding ways to get out of the norm of being the average man in society and changing the script of what people shall expect from men.
